These are the mantras that play over and over daily in my head as I cope. These are the things I tell myself so that I know I’m okay, even if I am still so lost in sadness.
•Grief changes the way you grieve.
Because becoming one with your grief changes the way you are able to process emotion for everything else that follows
But, what I do know is that it doesn’t matter how you arrive at this point – my grief isn’t “more” or “longer” because I lost a spouse. It is what it is because of how it affected me and how my brain processes it. You can’t tell me to get over it any quicker than you can tell someone who’s had a fight with their best friend, lost a pet, or lost a child. I know that grief comes in all shapes and sizes and some people can process and accept – and some times the loss of your favorite pencil might send you off the deep end. Grief has broken people just as often as it’s made them crusaders for a cause. I don’t claim to be an expert, but what I have learned is that loss is loss, and it becomes a part of you.